wedding sites, jewelry stores and TLC shows, all have two things in common: hyping up the materialist aspect of marriage and, of course, love... To see if wedding propaganda played any part in helping marriages last, two Emory University professors conducted a survey called "'A Diamond is Forever' and Other Fairy Tales: The Relationship between Wedding Expenses and Marriage Duration." After surveying a sample of straight married couples this past summer and studying their marital habits, satisfaction and age at each part of their relationship milestones, they found that wedding logistisics (other than love) do matter, but not in the way you'd expect.Randy Olson, a data analyst and Computer Science graduate research assistant, made graphs that break down the survey's findings — which Olson points out are trends in correlation, not causation.The study states that couples who spend ,000 or more on their wedding are 46 percent more likely to get a divorce.Adversely, couples who spend ,000 or less are 18 percent less likely to divorce.And the survery concludes the same for engagement rings: "Spending between ,000 and ,000 on an engagement ring is associated with a 1.3 times greater hazard of divorce as compared to spending between 0 and ,000." The study found that when the couple has over 200 guests at their wedding, their chances of divorce decrease by 92 percent."Clearly, this shows us that having a large group of family and friends who support the marriage is critically important to long-term marital stability," said Olson.
The findings mimic those of a 2006 study which found that couples who have dated less than 6 months before marriage had the highest divorce rate.In other words, the key to a long lasting marriage stems not from a lot of money, but love, mutual trust and support. Celebrities seem to think so and couples like Keyshia Cole and Boobie Gibson, Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odom and Monica and Shannon Brown all have the short courtships to prove it.While some think falling in love and getting engaged in less than a year is an act of fate, I’m willing to bet that for most it’s more like a natural disaster.As I write this I know I will get a comment section full of stories that are a little something like this: “Me and my husband only knew each other for a month before we got married and we’ve been married for ten years.” It’s not that I don’t believe that people can legitimately stay in love after rushing into a lifelong commitment; I just believe that it’s the exception, not the rule.While unions that result from short courtships CAN be successful, I wouldn’t go shelling out relationship advice for women to marry who they feel is “the one” after only 2 months of dating.