As an avid dater, online and off, and as someone who used to work for Dating Coach Evan Marc Katz, helping clients write their profiles, I saw many common online dating mistakes.A lot of people clearly didn't know what to write in an online dating message.
Here’s some of those online what-the-heck-do-I-write-in-a message dating dilemmas I hear about and a few key reminders.
Anyone can say they dance or read, but what kind of dancing and what kind of books?
Here’s an example straight from a guy's Ok Cupid profile: “I recently finished Augusten Burroughs’ Sellevision and just cracked open Freedom by Jonathan Franzen.
I also have a backlog of Atlantics to get through, but I might not win that literary battle.” See?
This guy gives us a lot to respond to, and prompts a discussion of books, authors, and reading without him even realizing it.
We’ve probably all “met” the online dater who messages us novellas (or maybe we used to be that person). Time and time again, friends of mine feel crushed when they build a strong rapport with someone in writing, yet when they meet, there’s no love connection.