Naturally nervous for my first date with a new guy, I stand in the mirror and stare at my neck. ” I don’t mind being asked about my scar, as most people who have or have had cancer are not shy about telling their story.
I decide not to try and cover up my scar, knowing that my makeup skills barely cover my freckles. It’s a big part of our lives, and rarely can we hide it.
Instead, I dry my hair and rehearse my responses to the question I know I’ll get: “What’s that from?
If we hit it off, we can talk about it in detail a few dates in.
I’m not all that different There are plenty of maladies affecting nearly everyone. Even some types of acne can completely ruin someone’s self-esteem. I think you’re strong for facing your depression or giving yourself insulin shots every day.
So when the topic comes up, let’s try not to make it a thing unless you want to make your thing a thing too.
It’s ok to not be ok We just met, you don’t have a responsibility to take on anything you don’t want to.
If you are scared, or unwilling to accept the risk cancer may bring, it’s ok.
When you’re in a long term relationship, or married when you are diagnosed, cancer has stuck someone you love and for better or for worse kicks in.